Holding the Line By Laura Bickle

Posted on Jul 4, 2013 by   5 Comments | Posted in Blog · Uncategorized

Boundaries are a good thing. They serve to protect things that are new and delicate. We put cages over young tomato plants to keep them from being nibbled by the wildlife. We ask relatives and neighbors to call before dropping in. We learn to say “no” to events that clutter up our calendars and drain our time and energy.


It’s a harder task for some of us than others. I’ve been guilty of being a doormat in the past, allowing the tide of demands to wash over me, until I was thoroughly resentful. Learning to say “no” to people and things was a difficult process for me in my daily life.

Writing is no different. It’s a precious thing that deserves to be guarded from incursions. To be certain, most of the things that encroach upon writing are benign, like that pile of laundry that I really should attack before bedtime. That last volley of e-mails that we ought to finish for work. Facebook updates. The phone. Twitter. Television.

Writing can slide to the bottom of the to-do list, becoming the last thing I hope to accomplish before we fall into bed at night. Days slide into weeks without tangible progress. I let the easier things on my to-do list take priority. And also the ones that are more visible to other people. I’m somehow prouder of a presentation or a freshly-painted room than something that’s for my eyes only. There’s immediate positive feedback, a pat on the back right away. Progress on writing is so often invisible to the world, and it’s easier to mitigate the importance of it.

But it’s vital to protect the work in progress, especially in the beginning stages. A book, or a grain of an idea for a book, is fragile. I’ve got to plant it in a safe place. It needs the right amount of sunshine and water. I have to put it first on the to-do list – first thing in the morning, before it gets a chance to get pushed off.

I’m not much of a morning person.  I always dreaded the standard writing advice of getting up an hour early to get writing stuffed into a day. I’d rather pull the covers over my head and finish dreaming. Even though it’s common advice, it’s good advice. We do first what we deem to be most important. And I was letting writing drop to the back of the list, rationalizing that I’d get to it around midnight because I was a night person. More often than not, I’d wind up vegging in my jammies in front of the TV.

I had to learn to create not only priority boundaries, but also time boundaries. I have to force myself to sit in a chair and not surf the internet, check-email, or mess with other distractions. It’s only then that I seem to get the really good stuff done. And…it feels pretty darn good to have that to-do crossed off my list. The rest of the day feels lighter, sort of virtuous. Charged. Sometimes, I squeeze in an extra session of writing during the day because the momentum is so good.

And I have to defend writing in other ways, too. A new idea may or may not work. I need some time and space to explore it, so I don’t really talk about it. It’s too easily bruised and can wither under too much judgment and scrutiny. When asked, I’ll talk about it in the vaguest of terms: “Oh…it’s a YA story.” “I think it’s gonna be UF.” But I don’t really know. Not until it’s grown up, and I can see if it’ll become animal, vegetable, or mineral. Mostly, I don’t need anybody poking at it. I may decide to go through with the project, or I might not. I don’t know if it has the shiny yet. It may not make it past thirty pages. If so, I want to quietly bury it in the backyard without having to explain myself with a full post-mortem.

There’s a time for editing, critique, and the harsh polish of good scrutiny. But not until I’ve worked with it. Not until it’s grown up under my wing and I’ve had a chance to enhance its strengths and diminish its weaknesses. I don’t want to subject anybody to a first draft. As I work through a manuscript, I keep notes of things that need to be fleshed out or fixed. Once it’s complete, before it goes to any beta readers, I do a round of editing to repair the things I know need work.

That’s another odd thing about being a writer: defending the process. To outsiders, writing can seem like a really self-indulgent process, where not much seems to be happening. I get to close myself off in a room and stare at a screen for a long time. Kind of luxurious, hmm? Isn’t there a better use of my time? Shouldn’t I be going out with friends or scrubbing my grout with a toothbrush?

I’ve gotten much better about saying “no.” This is work. Just as much as any other. I have to respect the process and respect myself in doing the process. I have no problem turning down social invites by saying that “Gee, I’d love to, but I’m working.” And I am. I have no issues anymore dodging intrusive questions about what I’m working on or when I’m going to share it. “Soon.” “Someday.” “When it’s done.” “Not yet.”

So…boundaries. They’re a good thing. Because that tomato plant needs a cage to protect it from the garden nibblers. The nibblers are many and varied: time, guilt, demands from others. I’ve got to put these boundaries in place to allow the project to produce fruit. And that’s not going to happen if I neglect to water it or let other people pick at the flowers.

Someday, I’ll have tomatoes to show. But not yet.
Laura Bickle’s professional background is in criminal justice and library science, and when she’s not patrolling the stacks at the public library she’s dreaming up stories about the monsters under the stairs (she also writes contemporary fantasy novels under the name Alayna Williams). Laura lives in Ohio with her husband and a herd of mostly-reformed feral cats. Get the latest updates on her work at www.laurabickle.com.

5 Responses to "Holding the Line By Laura Bickle"

  1. Comment by Laura Bickle
    July 4, 2013 2:35 pm

    Thanks for hosting me today! 🙂

  2. Comment by Rashda Khan
    July 4, 2013 2:56 pm

    Thanks for this important reminder. You are right, when I make my to-do list writing is usually the last note on it. Need to reorganize my thinking!

  3. Comment by Laura Bickle
    July 4, 2013 11:25 pm

    It’s difficult, Rashda! Especially when those items on the to-do list are for other people. Writing can slide to the bottom in a hurry!

  4. Comment by Sandra Allan
    July 7, 2013 2:00 am

    Great post. You are so right Laura. The fragility of our egos and short changing what we do. I know I’m guilty of that and of not prioritising properly. It’s like the saying – ‘writers write.’

  5. Comment by Laura Bickle
    July 7, 2013 1:58 pm

    Thanks, Sandra! I think it’s very easy for me to feel that my writing is “less than” anything else on my to-do list. And then it snowballs.


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